Last week, Danny and I celebrated three years of marriage.
I honestly can't believe we've been married that long, and most people I meet can't either! We've both changed in innumerable ways in the past three years. At the beginning of our marriage, I was so averse to change of any kind. And when you get married at the ripe age of 21, uncertainty and change is inevitable. You're just beginning to question things and figure out where you fit in the world. Ultimately you're growing up, all the while supporting and loving your partner who's going through the same thing. When an ambitious New Englander and a laid back Midwestern girl get married, life is emotional and hard. But more often, it is full of adventure and unwavering love.
It's funny to think about what we were like when we were dating. We went to a super small college in a Wisconsin town that has absolutely nothing to do and feels like it's stuck in the 80s. Sorry friends, but you know it's true. We like to say that we fell in love in a hopeless place. Kudos to anyone who catches my Rihanna reference. Our typical Friday nights were spent hanging out at the local Applebee's for 1/2 price appetizers after 10pm or strolling around Target. We got bored pretty fast. When we got married and graduated, we felt like we had missed out on everything that had been happening in the world culturally. We were basically on a constant search for new ideas, passions, foods, and places to visit. My world opened up as we moved outside our comfort zone.
This year has marked the most significant change in getting outside our comfort zones.
It involved moving halfway across the country to Maine. Who would have ever thought we would move to Maine? We intended to move to Boston, and to dive into the creative community there. We tested it out for a few months, and it turned out that we didn't enjoy the big city life as much as we anticipated. We learned that we could barely afford to live in the worst parts of the city. We learned that we hate large public transportation systems. We learned that we don't enjoy leaving the house at 7am for work and returning at 8pm, due to long commutes. We also learned that we have a deep connection to the outdoors; and we learned that we didn't have easy access to any of those places. We learned that big city living didn't give us the quality of life that we decided we needed. It felt unbalanced to us.
So, we moved to Portland, Maine. And honestly, at first, that felt incredibly embarrassing to me. We told family, friends, and everyone back home in Wisconsin that we were moving to Boston to work in the city and get the big city experience, only to change our minds within months. I think that I wanted the world to think that we had our lives figured out, and when it became public that clearly we didn't, it felt embarrassing. But, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that changing your mind is okay. It's nothing to be ashamed about. It's called growing up and figuring out what you want.
So, for our third anniversary, we took a trip up the coast of Maine to step away from the whirlwind which was the last 6 months, and reflect and enjoy our new beautiful state. We spent time doing things that both of us love. We ate incredible food, sailed on the open sea, indulged in some oceanside reading, and hiked a few trails with majestic views. We're happy to live a place that is creatively inspirational to us while also giving us the balance that we crave. Enjoy a few photos from our anniversary trip up the coast.
P.S. Please come visit us in Maine. Beware: You'll want to move here too.